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Covert bullies: one of my experience was boss incited others to destroy my work from files and in their place make them leave complaint notes for which I wasn’t even counselled on or notified. When I went to management to request that if there were genuine complaints they should be made through proper channels instead of placing malicious notes in commercial-in - confidence work files, management told me I was being vindictive for making such a request. Talk about projection of their own blame. .

BRILLLIANT !!! THIS IS BLOODY BRILLIANT ... MISSING LINK ... narc mom and im in recovery "LOVE AND TOLERANCE" can be quite gaslighty when dealing with EIP's .... TRUST YA GUT ...

The intro voice is kind of annoying I have to say XD

why would someone be drawn to the lovebombing ? Huh ? Who wouldnt be drawn to the lovebombing ? You are being seen and heard, prioritized and interacting with someone who has fast forwarded the aspects of trust care consistency and conscienceness that anyone would value when these are being ' mirrored ' back to you.

Thank you 😊

I disagree with equating a cluster B personality disorder with emotional immaturity. That connotes that they can indeed grow out of it. How many of us that have been in relationships with these people hung on and continued to commit way too much of our lives with this hope? Emotionally deficient is a much more accurate descriptive. Still it’s great to have more tools to see these things in ourselves and others. Thank you.

Most of these people are gang or cult involved, addicted to drugs and alcohol, and personality disordered. That has been my experience.🙄

surprisingly, there is a course of conduct of the target being treated as a traitor to the organisation in daring to bring the company into disrepute! This appears to be a blueprint of behaviour that identifies a vicious cycle of harassment to destroy the target both physically and mentally. Which in effect, is a crime and those engaging in such behaviour are committing a criminal offence. All of the behaviours of harassment are inherent. Flying monkeys are also complicit and the same course of abuse is employed with the sole intent of destroying the target's life.

I'm living through healing it now. After almost 18 years with a narcissistic abuser. I'm grateful for awareness 🙏 ❤

My parents were in all four categories 🤷‍♀️

Loved your book which was very in depth and helpful! Thanks for this podcast!

Its really a show.... I would expect more focused and more knowledge condensed exchange rather than hearing word fillers -" you know, you know, etc.." its more casual sort od talk show., than scientific analysis. Its no more than pseudo scientific talk of two women, than sharing any expert knowledge.

How do i handle a manager from another department who i still have to work with to set up onsite tech services appointments for our customers, always speaks to me in very hostile, condescending, and insulting language whenever i have to interact with him. Also, my direct office manager refuses to address his hostile work environment, but instead often encourages it or refuses to listen to grievences and has a few times publicly scapegoated and humiliated me to a few of our important customers. I'm basically really alone and completely targeted on a daily basis.its also intermittent so some days work goes smoothly, then someone with an axe to grind that moment will go ballistic on some often conjurred up accusation to tub my face in nonstop.i cant take it anymore.

I will never be sad for a bully who knows well what is doing and do everything intentionally! Nobody brought the word narcissist in here but I will. They study you and target you without remorse! They don’t hold any accountability and always shift the blame in the victims also they have a full army of enablers and flying monkeys to destroy any kind of evidence and your reputation! I have been suffering these insidious abuse in my current job but it has not been the only job where I have been victim not only of bulling and harassment but also racism. My emotional and physical well-being has been compromised and I brought up this situation to the higher lever possible just to see nothing happened and my abuser is going stronger and wild in her abuse because she feels supported. She is so manipulative and micro controlling on the top of fake charming and empathetic! You are correct they will destroy and target the person who is more competent! I don’t need her to be successful in what I’m doing and that is driving her crazy! Btw she uses all the 4 techniques explained in this video!

Yes, Audrey, I agree, it is disconcerting, but for me, expected, that only one had commented when you came here. The truth is the Masses have always been Asses the Elites ride. The Elites created and use the pHARMaceutical-psychiaTRICK MAFIA to meet their need to dominate and control others rather than themselves.

This content is so helpful for someone who has been in this type of relationship. I am one of them. Sandra’s work kept me moving forward during the first few years of the aftermath. I have so much appreciation for her and other professionals working on this topic.

Why fall into simplified steriotypes as an inherent perspective on clientele?

In this destructive, shallow society, the markers for achieving "adulthood"( by automatic implication) are "jobs", marriage, buying a house, car, raising a family, paying bills, and access to every kind of consumption--all shallow and utilitarian.

Post note, You are an excellent gate keeper so thank you for providing a plat form. a I'll look up your guest for more❤

Post note, You are an excellent gate keeper so thank you for providing a plat form. a I'll look up your guest for more❤

First let me thank you. ❤ but will you consider less intro and talking on your part? Or consider a longer broadcast? You ask excellent detailed questions and comment at length on thier work. So please give them equel air time. I'm binge watching so I can clearly see a pattern. I want to hear the guest please. I really am searching for help. ❤

I have been a target of mobbing. I have read a lot about bullying and mobbing. I was interested when I heard the phrase "blowing the whistle" on bullying. I consider bullying and mobbing a form of corruption. Most behaviors are not endorsed within personnel handbooks nor even law. Bullies are always supported by the power structure. They never succeed alone. A well managed and fair enterprise will not tolerate bullying. They will stop it or mediate the situation. The same is true of whistleblowing. Whistleblowing becomes dangerous when the organization breaks their own rules to retaliate against the target. Human resources will do what management demands. Corrupt management requires a corrupt human resources. Since the objective is to protect the corrupr power structure,, there are no rules for perpetrators. Under current conditions targets do not really have support and legal remedies are expensive and not always successful. My employer bribed lawyers.

1:00:22 what do you really want? Real motivator?

49:55 they marry people who continue family dynamics 53:02 Marie Differentiation Scale 55:46 know what youre comfortable and not comfortable with 58:26 set the boundary in any way that works for you 59:00 repeat the boundary as often as needed

1:56 skip intro 7:28 it's not what happened to you. It's what they didn't do 23:13 26:50

5:00 Dr. Gibson says hello 7:41 still small voice inside 7:53 comes with a lot of energy 9:34 impulses from true self 26:34 are we looking for permission? 29:13 claim joy now 30:46 this is your time. Do it. Say yes 32:29 establish boundaries 38:52 if no one disapproved of you, what would you do that would be pleasurable 49:11 familiarity is part of bonding

It is heartening to hear Sandra Brown beginning to acknowledge that women are also perpetrators. I had a difficult email exchange with her many years ago and and as a victim of multiple female “cluster b’s” she was firmly gender insistent on men are perpetrators and women are victims. Her analysis perspective and insight are very useful, maybe with her influence in the field she can now help men who suffer as well as women.

Rosenhan experiment. Also, intraspecies predation is a consequence of civilization itself obviating our omnivorous need to hunt. On a societal level ingroup sanity is regulated by directing irrational barbarism toward culturally-approved ideological outgroups, usually by way of fixed political or religious delusion. Pretty obvious any woman in Nazareth who concealed her infidelity with a story about getting knocked up by an angel would have induced her illegitimate proxy child to a messianic delusion. And just as clear that guaranteed third-party forgiveness in an imaginary next life is only a necessity of unforgivable remorselessness in this real one. Because natural selection prioritizes the primary attachment figure's (relative) mental health during her childbearing years (80% of Alzheimer's patients are female, 75% of autistic and schizophrenic patients are male) this ganging-up / bullying dynamic within families originates with postpartum psychosis (wish for the child to become "unborn") creating identified patients / blacksheep. At its most severe this is a mother with subclinical, misdiagnosed, or undiagnosed cluster b pathology inducing autism or schizophrenia by regulating her mask of sanity at the expense of whichever kid is just lucky to have not been made a SIDS statistic. And those are also mostly male... Because disturbed individuals see others as extensions of themselves, so naturally disturbed parents are likeliest to want Mini-Mes (which works better for them with same-gendered kids). Schizoid schizotypal types are less likely to parent but when they do if they are the more disturbed or custodial parent it sets up the enmeshment dynamic. The abrahamic filicidal impulse (which used Isaac to overcorrect damage to his reputation for schwarzeneggering his maid) on Sinai during the era of animal sacrifice makes it very clear that child sacrifice is endemic to civilization (and currently iterated as SIDS and autistic / schizophrenic suicidality). IDK if Ishmael was autistic, but it's clear he is the child in whom Psycho Abe projectively identified his own split-off persecuted parts of self (so wanted to make an ACTUAL sacrifice of). That story makes a particularly good exemplar because it demonstrates notable exceptions 1)paternal postpartum psychosis and 2)scapegoating of the same-gendered child by the more disturbed parent. Without a doubt though schizophreniform decompensation is just uncontextualized ego discontinuity, so not psychosis. And end-stage egodecompensatory Alzheimer's regression is the ACTUAL dementing psychosis. Because newsflash--the vast majority of autism in the world being undiagnosed unaware and intellectually compensating has quite a bit to do with people not considering Parkinson's is very likely end-stage autism when autistic catatonia isn't misdiagnosed as early-onset dementia (or diogenes syndrome) and misprescribed contraindicated antipsychotics. Which hasten decline misdiagnosing quacks only misperceive as diagnostic validation. They know that we're mostly undiagnosed and often smarter than them though because they're using the chromosomal impossibility of transgender delusion (usually an attachment strategy in toddlers rejected for their physical sex or adolescents rejected for their sexual orientation) to accept undiagnosed autistic females' (who internalize displaced rage toward their mothers as self-hatred) nvitation to sterilize them. Pretty despicable to use an attachment strategy they'd outgrow once they got out from under the inducing parents' roof against a dependent minor child. Autistic females don't have any business having kids but what's problematic about this is medicine doesn't even tell diagnosed autistics either that as young adults they have developmental incapacities to enter into contracts such as marriage. It's all part of pretending ASD is a pediatric-only diagnosis to shield themselves from negligent malpractice liability. So since everybody's a psychopath to somebody if you're vulnerable you are definitely at risk of experiencing more primary psychopaths in psychiatry than even surgery. But otherwise AFAICT the very reason primary psychopathy isn't a diagnosis is because our individual suitability to environment is evolutionarily mediated at least empirically by correlating IQ to extraversion only below the mean. I'm dyscalculic as fuck but I think the function I'm trying to describe is logarithmic, too.

If one thinks about it, the major tendency of commercials reflect emotionally immature people; the mindlessly conformist, "group-think" types ectsatically engaging in consumption. Same for sitcoms, movies, and dramas--they all reflect the extremely narrow range of this type of individual--the american! The fertile soil for fascism ALA (american type) "democracy " !!!

Great content but I couldn’t hear Sandra very well. She sounded distant.

I agree with most of what you shared however when you said the poor bully is sad...I thought... so what!!! Many of us go through things that are difficult and yet we do not cause others suffering because of it nor despite it. I just made a complaint about my bully and her pit bull coworker whom she uses to do much harm. Interestingly a week after my complaint went through. My bully pulled a fast one and called my coordinator in a situation whereby she played the victim. I got called to HR to be told I should apologize for calling the bully a liar and that she disgusted me. I will walk out before I ever apologize and I am not a proud person but I hold to standards of integrity and justice. I am going to take an early retirement at my own cost rather than continue being abused. I am absolutely disgusted with all the injustice that goes on. My only solace is knowing that one day the one true God will come back to expose the truth and bring true and fair justice. Psalm 37 confirms that. I pray that everyone here finds peace and self preservation in this cruel situations.

100%correct...from my experience..

This narrator needs to chill a bit on the intonation, holy

I wish I knew about this before I was in it...2 1/2 years of it and I knew obviously something was wrong...I knew it was mental illness but now I know he was probably a malignant Narcissist/ Sociopath. I''m very high on the traits you discuss...agreeableness etc. Thank you so much for your work!

I am a bit taken back over the fact that after 11 months this video only has 2 comments.

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Thank you

I’m reading Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents and it’s being a level of clarity I have not experienced. Thank you Dr Gibson!!

Wow thank you so much this podcast, this open my eyes so much!!!💜

What a great convo . Loved every second of it. Its so enlightening to be aware of how my EIP conditioned me and the consequences of it all. So good to know im not crazy all by my choosing.😅

Thank you for this episode. Shared liberally. Having worked in an environmemt rife with bullies for a lot of years, I can say from personal experience that I believe that those who bully absolutely know the misery they inflict, and that it gives them a sense of power and control to humiliate and generate anxiety in their targets. In fact, I would argue that they derive a twisted sort of glee from it. My personal tormentors would often smirk or giggle after making remarks designed to embarrass me. What gives them the right to squash other people to bolster their own self esteem? It's a sickness. Given the magnitude of the problem, I almost think that North America should implement psychological testing and standards for managers in every sector. Some people are incapable of interacting with others in an emotionally healthy manner. Perhaps.they should just be off working by themselves, instead of being allowed to act out against their subordinates and peers, like overgrown children. The trouble is that they are so rarely held to account for their aberrant behaviour, which, without identification and resolution, becomes everyone's problem. Our whole society would be better off if people with bullish tendencies simply never got to positions of authority because they were not emotionally fit to lead.

Covert workplace bullies love schadenfreude, and every time they crouch down at the smoko table and the words spew from their gob ,"Hey Hey wanna here some goss , you know the knife is in your back when new people look at you , and when they have their devotees and work on you for 17 years , you would think enough is enough , but they keep on ya .

Every company should have a yearly power point presentation on the 4 types of bullying, because just about all people can't see it , but they would if they had an awareness of the types of bullying , and I'm sure this would turn the tables on the bullies , I'm pretty sure that even the bullies don't know that they are one , it's just their nature to stab people in the back , continually..

Aren't immature parents simply traumatized adult children??? Immature parents can't sit with their hurting child because they haven't dealt and processed their own childhood hurts. I'm only guessing here, but being the adult child of immature and narcissistic parents, I always felt, even as a child, that was the case with my parents. I just instinctively knew something quite terrible happened to them as children.

Aren't immature parents simply traumatized adult children??? Immature parents can't sit with their hurting child because they haven't dealt and processed their own childhood hurts. I'm only guessing here, but being the adult child of immature and narcissistic parents, I always felt, even as a child, that was the case with my parents. I just instinctively knew something quite terrible happened to them as children.

Odds are if they mention their husband/wife or have a podcast like this, its just another pop psych grifting channel where they LARP as "doctors". They all use the same bullshit cookie cutter sentences they ramble on and on about with no concern for your time and you will learn to pick up on that with how fucking pervasive these scumbags are. How fucking hard is it to just tell people to kick someone's ass from time to time? The bullies friends would absolutely tell them to do that, so why is it only bad when the victim fights back? Because all they care about is the local status quo.